INTERVIEW: Betrayal Trauma with Mr. Jay & P. Pesqueda NARC Troopers喂INTERVIEW: Betrayal Trauma with Mr. Jay & P. Pesqueda NARC Troopers喂
N.A.R.C. Troopers: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Collaborators
Betrayal trauma practitioner Mr. Jay talks with NARC Troopers about the impact of betrayal, narcissistic abuse and childhood wounds, sharing practical tools like needs assessments and grounding techniques. The conversation focuses on rebuilding a new sense of self and trust rather than trying to return to life before the betrayal.
1:19:11•7 Aug 2026
Betrayal Trauma, Narcissistic Abuse and Finding Your Way Back to Yourself
Episode Overview
- Betrayal trauma is a unique form of hurt that affects past, present and future, and often carries intense shame and secrecy.
- Early healing benefits from a personalised needs assessment and a practical support team rather than trying to cope alone.
- Grounding tools such as butterfly hugs, visualisations and even reciting maths facts can help calm triggers and emotional flooding.
- Inner child work, including writing to your younger self, can address longstanding wounds that betrayal has stirred up.
- Changing harsh self-narratives and identifying the lies you believed about yourself are key steps in rebuilding trust in yourself.
“We are all beautifully broken, but even broken crayons can create amazing masterpieces.”
What remarkable journeys have people faced head-on against addiction, betrayal and emotional pain? This conversation with betrayal trauma practitioner Mr. Jay is aimed at anyone reeling from infidelity, narcissistic abuse or deep relational wounds and wondering how on earth to start healing. You’ll hear Mr.
Jay break down what betrayal trauma actually is: a specific kind of hurt that comes from someone you depend on shattering trust, affecting not just the present and future, but, as he puts it, “the past” too, because old memories stop feeling safe. He explains why it feels like a “secret society” filled with shame and isolation, and why traditional relationship counselling often misses the mark. Host P. Pesqueda and Mr.
Jay talk through very practical first steps, like creating a personalised “needs assessment” – three people you can call at 2am, three restaurants that deliver food when you can’t get out of bed, three people who can pray with you. Grounding tools get plenty of airtime too, from butterfly hugs to surprisingly effective maths facts to pull the brain out of emotional flooding.
The episode also looks at childhood wounds and the inner child, including writing a letter to your younger self promising, “I got your back now.” Concepts like betrayal blindness, trauma bonding and “affair fog” are explained in clear language, helping you see why you might have missed red flags or blamed yourself.
Throughout, the focus stays on rebuilding a new self rather than “recovering” an old one, shifting trust away from others’ future choices towards confidence that you’ll be okay, whatever happens. As Mr. Jay reminds people, “betrayal is universal, but our own betrayal is personal,” and that means your healing plan has to be personal too.
If you’re struggling to make sense of betrayal or narcissistic abuse, could this be the conversation that helps you stop looping the pain and start writing a different story?
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