Mess it Up Show 424 - Paragon

Mess it Up Show 424 - Paragon

Curious about how others manage their sobriety journey when fear and self-doubt creep in? This conversation from the Mess It Up Podcast circles around one big idea: "Courage is doing the right thing even when you think it won't work out." Recording from a family visit in Klamath Falls, the bowtie guy and Bev (also known as Grammy) keep things light-hearted while tackling some heavy themes.

They talk frankly about fear of failure, that urge to quit before even trying, and how easy it is to slip into despair when life feels like one long setback. Bev compares giving up to digging "a little bit deeper into despair" with a shovel, a feeling many people in recovery will recognise. For anyone dealing with addiction or unhealthy patterns, the episode speaks directly to the mental battle: those "if-onlys" and "only-ifs" that haunt the mind.

They stress the importance of support networks, practical tools, and small acts of bravery, especially in staying sober "one more day" or choosing new friends and places instead of old, triggering habits. Faith is woven through the chat, especially when Bev introduces the song "Washed" by Elevation Rhythm. She talks about loving "clean" and how, for her as a Christian, being "washed" means knowing that mistakes and regrets aren't permanent.

The bowtie guy links this to work in prisons, describing how forgiveness and a fresh start can change lives for people who’ve "done unthinkable things." Throughout, they highlight that courage doesn’t always look loud or dramatic. Sometimes it’s a quiet mum living out her values, a child refusing to say "I give up," or a person behind bars bravely choosing a new way of life.

If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s worth trying one more time, this chat might be the nudge you need to keep going. So what small brave step could you take today, even if you’re not sure it will work out?