One on One with Coach Blu: Remember Your History Forgive Your PastOne on One with Coach Blu: Remember Your History Forgive Your Past
Addict II Athlete Podcast
Coach Blu and Marissa answer live questions about addiction recovery, forgiveness and family, stressing multiple paths to sobriety and firm but compassionate boundaries. The conversation blends real-life stories, emotional honesty and practical tools for handling guilt, past pain and complex relationships.
1:11:50•18 Feb 2021
Remember Your History, Forgive Your Past: Coach Blu’s Candid Q&A on Recovery and Family
Episode Overview
- Forgiveness does not require forgetting; remembering your past keeps the lessons and growth alive while releasing ongoing resentment.
- Avoid glorifying both addiction and recovery stories by focusing on realistic memories instead of “war stories” that hide the harm.
- Different people, even within the same family, may need different recovery paths, and mutual respect for each approach reduces conflict.
- Healthy boundaries include knowing your emotional limits in family contact and ending visits or roles before resentment boils over.
- Guilt from others does not always equal responsibility; self-evaluation helps decide when to accept fault and when to let go of misplaced blame.
“There are so many ways to get sober. Don't just choose one.”
Curious about how others navigate their sobriety journey? This one-on-one session with Coach Blu and Athletic Director Marissa feels like sitting in on a live support group, where real questions about recovery, family and guilt get tackled in real time. You’ll hear Coach Blu, a licensed mental health therapist and substance use disorder counsellor, and Marissa, a certified recreational therapist, talk candidly about remembering your history without getting stuck in it.
They break down the difference between “forgive and forget”, arguing that forgiveness doesn’t mean erasing what happened, because “forgetting what you've been through, where you've come from, will always kind of lessen the degree of education in whatever life experience you had.” Listeners’ questions shape the whole conversation. One family dealing with three different recovery paths asks how to stop arguing about meetings and programmes.
Blu and Marissa stress respect, curiosity and the power of a “triad of care” – mixing 12-step meetings, Team Addict II Athlete and therapy instead of fighting over whose way is best. Another caller, Rowena, shares a raw story about reconnecting with her mum and brother after years of addiction, prison and estrangement, and wonders if her anger means she hasn’t really forgiven.
Blu ties this to grief, inner-child work and the idea that old wounds can still hurt even when you’ve done the emotional work. There’s also a frank chat about parent–child guilt: how much responsibility adult children should carry, and where healthy boundaries fit when parents lean heavily on them.
The tone stays warm and slightly cheeky, even when things get heavy, with Marissa dropping practical tips (like setting time limits on stressful visits) and Blu reframing hard choices as “decisions” that cut out what harms you. If you’re juggling recovery, tricky family ties and a noisy inner critic, this session might leave you asking yourself: what am I ready to forgive, and what am I finally ready to stop carrying?
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