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Recovery Elevator
Paul reflects on the golden rule and reframing sobriety, while Karen shares how her nightly wine habit, withdrawal and crushing insomnia led her to an alcohol-free life supported by community, faith and persistence. The conversation focuses on midlife drinking, mommy wine culture, and the relief and clarity she found beyond her first 100 days.
54:11•21 Sept 2026
Golden Rule Wisdom and Feeling “Duped by Life”: Karen’s Sobriety Story
Episode Overview
- Romanticise clear mornings, good health and financial relief instead of the drink itself.
- Give yourself at least 100 days off alcohol to fairly assess how your body and mind respond.
- Use multiple supports at once – community meetings, books, podcasts, and accountability partners.
- Accept how powerful alcohol can be, rather than underestimating its impact because it looks “classy”.
- Remember that cravings can fade from a ten to nearly zero if you keep feeding sobriety with time and effort.
“How could it be that I did everything right, have this beautiful life, and I can’t get through my day without drinking a bottle of wine?”
What drives someone to seek a life without alcohol? In this Recovery Elevator episode, you’ll hear Paul Churchill frame sobriety as saying "yes" to a better life, then hand the mic to Karen from Chicopee, Massachusetts, who shares a candid and often funny account of how wine went from weekend treat to "the highlight of my day". Paul opens by revisiting his idea of "romanticising the drink" and flips it on its head.
Instead of daydreaming about wine "taking the edge off", he urges you to focus on clear mornings, less financial stress and "a liver that is properly functioning". He links this to what he calls the most prolific teaching of all time: the golden rule – "love thy neighbour", "think happy thoughts", and "to have is to give" – arguing that self-love and sobriety are deeply connected. Karen’s story is aimed squarely at anyone stuck in the "mommy wine culture".
She describes how her nightly routine turned into pouring a glass, cheering the dog and polishing off almost a bottle, all while believing wine was "classy" and harmless. Her turning point came with brutal insomnia, rising anxiety, weight gain and a failed moderation attempt that left her terrified by how upset she felt at the thought of a week without wine. Early alcohol-free days weren’t easy.
Karen talks about hand-wringing anxiety, physical withdrawal, and anhedonia – "my life felt like a sad movie" – yet she kept pushing, leaning on prayer, TikTok sobriety content, quit-lit, and daily meetings with the Café RE community. By around 100 days she had her "mic drop" moment: more sleep, energy, optimism and a clear sense that, as she puts it, "all day, every day, the alcohol was bringing me down".
The episode mixes humour (including martial arts chat and hedgehog names) with practical hope for anyone who feels, as Karen once did, "duped by life". If you’re wondering whether your classy evening glass has quietly become a curse, could this be the story that helps you push through your own first 100 days?
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