Recontacting Your BPD Ex Increases Your SufferingRecontacting Your BPD Ex Increases Your Suffering
Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups
Recontacting Your BPD Ex (Reverse Hoovering) Increases Your Suffering Recontacting your BPD Ex is reverse hoovering and it increases Codependents suffering. Many people with Codependency are still in denial of the reverse hoovering responsibility...
41:30•11 Feb 2024
Breaking the Cycle: Understanding Reverse Hoovering After BPD Breakups
Episode Overview
- Exploring the concept of reverse hoovering in BPD relationships
- Highlighting the responsibility of codependents in setting boundaries
- Navigating emotional turmoil post-breakup and seeking closure
- Emphasising the importance of self-healing and refraining from seeking external validation
- Insights into the complexities of relationship dynamics in the context of BPD
“How is it in this circumstance, because I would say it's not at all, that the person with BPD is somehow being bizarre and not in a position where they're trying to say anything about loving this person anymore.”
Why is it so hard to let go after a breakup with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? In this eye-opening episode, A.J. Mahari tackles the concept of 'reverse hoovering'—when you find yourself reaching out to your BPD ex, only to end up in more emotional pain. Through real-life examples and listener comments, Mahari explains how recontacting a BPD ex can deepen the suffering for those with codependency issues.
She discusses the importance of setting boundaries and the responsibility that codependents have in breaking free from these toxic cycles. Mahari’s compassionate yet straightforward approach provides listeners with actionable advice on how to stop seeking external validation and start focusing on self-healing. If you're caught in the push-pull dynamics of a BPD relationship, this episode offers valuable insights into why going 'no contact' is essential for your recovery journey.
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