STEP 4 FINAL WALKTHROUGH
STEP 4 FINAL WALKTHROUGH

Living Sober

Annie G talks through AA Step 4 in detail, focusing on resentments, sex and fear inventories, journalling and honest self-reflection. She shares personal experiences of trauma, difficult relationships and lost friendships to show how ongoing inventory work can support sobriety and self-respect.

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51:58•29 Aug 2026

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Step 4, Resentments and Real Talk: Annie G’s Honest Walkthrough

Episode Overview

Step 4’s moral inventory is a lifelong practice, not a single task, and helps uncover resentments, fears and patterns that fuel addictive behaviour.
Regular writing, journalling and even keeping a fear inventory can bring mental peace and stop emotional reactions from running the show.
Sex inventory work highlights how past assaults, trauma and low self-worth can drive unhealthy sexual choices and harm to others and ourselves.
Healthy boundaries, including walking away from disrespectful or narcissistic people, are essential for protecting sobriety and mental health.
A good sponsor teaches tools so you can handle life on your own, rather than becoming someone you depend on for every decision.

“Fear is believing incorrectly… you’re destroying the truths so that you don’t have to look at yourself in the mirror.”

Speaking directly to “beautiful souls” and fellow addicts, she breaks Step 4 down into practical pieces: resentments lists, sex inventories, fear inventories and the famous columns on who was involved, how it felt, what it affected and “the exact nature of our wrongs.” She reminds everyone that this isn’t a one-and-done homework sheet but a tool you keep coming back to “every single time you like pop off… or feel like you’re going to go insane in the membrane and use again.” Annie also goes deep into sex and resentment, sharing her own history of rape, substance use and using sex as a weapon or a way to feel wanted.

Curious about how others manage the tougher AA steps without losing their minds? Annie G’s walkthrough of Step 4 in Living Sober gives a grounded, honest look at what it’s like to tackle a “fearless moral inventory” while still dealing with real-life trauma, family chaos and everyday triggers. She talks frankly about narcissistic parents, fake friends who vanished when she got sober and the loneliness of losing people who only wanted her around for alcohol and drugs.

Yet, there’s humour, warmth and a strong message about boundaries: sometimes defending yourself “looks like walking away,” and that’s okay. Journalling, commonplace books, learning the saxophone and leaning on a solid sponsor all show up as real-life tools rather than cheesy slogans. As Annie puts it, “being true to yourself and your experiences” is how this work slowly brings peace, self-respect and healthier relationships.

If you’re stuck on Step 4, scared of facing your past or just tired of feeling like the “emotional one”, this episode might be the permission slip you need to pick up the pen again—what would your next inventory page say about the version of you you’re becoming?

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