#118 It's My Attitude!#118 It's My Attitude!
The Gathering With Roger B.
Roger B and the Gathering community talk about how attitudes, shaped by early experiences and self-reliance, influence suffering and recovery. Through honesty, humility, willingness and community support, they share ways to shift from fear and victimhood towards spiritual growth, love and service.
59:21•3 Sept 2026
It's My Attitude: Changing the Angle of Approach in Recovery
Episode Overview
- Attitude is described as the "angle of approach" to life, formed early by experience and often driven by self-reliance and fear.
- Honesty about one’s own delusion and limitations is presented as the starting point for change, leading into humility and teachability.
- Willingness is framed as a gift that appears once a person admits they have a problem and may not have the solution.
- Community and recovery meetings are highlighted as safe spaces where people can be honest without shame and grow together.
- Shifting perspective from "Why is this happening to me?" to "What is this trying to teach me?" helps turn problems into opportunities grounded in love and service.
“It's the willingness to try the thing you've never tried. That's the magic.”
What drives someone to seek a different way of living when life keeps feeling like one long problem? This Gathering session with Roger B circles around one simple but uncomfortable truth: "It's my attitude." Roger talks about attitude as the "angle of approach" to life, shaped early by childhood experiences and self-reliance.
Growing up with the belief that no one was really going to help him, his default stance became, "I'll do this my way" – and that script ran for decades. He explains how the mind constantly hunts for evidence to back up its beliefs: if you expect disappointment, you’ll keep finding proof that life is out to get you. From there, the conversation shifts into what actually changes that internal script.
Honesty, humility and willingness are called out as the essential trio. Roger admits, "Honesty brings me to a point of ‘I don’t know.’ Now I’m entering a place of humility." That’s where teachability begins and where willingness quietly shows up.
Members of the Gathering community – including Chris, Heather, Andy, Paul, Susan, Doug and Tom – share how their attitudes once trapped them in shame, victimhood and confirmation bias, and how recovery tools and spiritual principles helped them see problems as "seeds of opportunity" instead. Stories range from everyday annoyances (kids being late after school, failed expectations at home) to deeper patterns of "nothing I do is ever good enough." A strong thread runs through the whole session: community matters.
Roger reminds everyone that this kind of change doesn’t happen alone with a book at home. It grows in safe groups where no one is shamed for slipping, where love and service are the standard, and where, as one person puts it, "when we are there for each other, that’s the juice." If your attitude keeps telling you life is against you, could it be time to change the angle of approach?
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