Veronica Valli & Chip Somers
Veronica Valli & Chip Somers
285: Sex Addiction, Shame and Betrayal with Duane Osterlind
285: Sex Addiction, Shame and Betrayal with Duane Osterlind
285: Sex Addiction, Shame and Betrayal with Duane Osterlind
Wednesday 25th September 2024
Duane Osterlind discusses sex addiction, shame, and betrayal on Soberful, offering insights into recovery and relationship healing.
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41 minutes
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Veronica Valli & Chip Somers
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Sobriety Toolkit
Sexual Empowerment & Identity
Understanding Addiction & Recovery
Financial Health in Recovery
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Episode Overview
- Sex addiction often masks deeper emotional pain.
- Shame plays a crucial role in perpetuating sex addiction.
- Betrayal trauma can cause post-traumatic stress in partners.
- Recovery requires community and professional support.
- Relationships can heal from sex addiction with consistent effort.
"Sex addiction isn't about the act itself; it's about the deep loneliness and shame that drives it"
Veronica Valli and Chip Somers bring you an eye-opening episode of Soberful featuring Duane Osterlind, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specialises in helping people overcome sex addiction. Duane breaks down sex addiction as a compulsive behaviour that masks deeper emotional pain and a desperate need for connection. He explains that shame plays a crucial role in perpetuating this addiction, making it essential to address in recovery.
The conversation also touches on the impact of sex addiction on partners, highlighting the trauma of betrayal and the challenging yet possible journey to relationship recovery. Duane shares poignant stories from his practice, illustrating how sex addiction often surfaces after someone has achieved sobriety from substances. He talks about the struggle many face in recognising and admitting to their compulsive sexual behaviours, often hidden under layers of shame.
This episode sheds light on the misconception that sex addiction is 'fun' or 'desirable', instead revealing its deeply isolating and destructive nature. One of the standout moments is when Duane discusses the difference between intensity and intimacy, explaining how those struggling with sex addiction often confuse the two. This confusion leads them to seek intense sexual experiences as a substitute for genuine emotional connection.
Veronica and Duane also delve into the rising issue of pornography addiction among younger generations, exacerbated by easy access to explicit content online. The episode concludes with practical advice for those affected by sex addiction, either personally or through a loved one. Duane emphasises the importance of community and professional support in overcoming this addiction. He also offers hope, sharing that recovery is possible with consistent effort and the right resources.
If you're looking for a deep dive into the complexities of sex addiction and its ripple effects on relationships, this episode of Soberful is a must-listen. It’s an engaging, compassionate, and informative discussion that will leave you with a better understanding of this often-misunderstood issue.