382 The Secret Addiction That Shattered Us: Rebuilding After Hidden Betrayal382 The Secret Addiction That Shattered Us: Rebuilding After Hidden Betrayal
The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast
In this episode, I’m joined by Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith—a couple whose story of addiction, betrayal, and ultimately deep healing is nothing short of powerful. Matthew shares his journey through sexual addiction and recovery, while Joanna opens...
54:53•3 Jul 2025
382 The Secret Addiction That Shattered Us: Rebuilding After Hidden Betrayal
Episode Overview
- Understanding betrayal trauma and its impact.
- The role of full disclosure in healing relationships.
- Joanna and Matthew's journey from addiction to recovery.
- The importance of self-care in overcoming burnout.
- Guiding others through their healing process.
“The thing I took away from Joanna is I took away an ability for her to choose because I didn't give her all the information.”
In this compelling episode of The One Day At A Time Podcast, we delve into a powerful story of addiction, betrayal, and healing with Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith. Matthew bravely shares his experience of dealing with sexual addiction and the challenging path to recovery. Meanwhile, Joanna opens up about the betrayal trauma that nearly shattered their relationship and the arduous journey they undertook to rebuild trust and intimacy.
Betrayal trauma is explored in depth, illustrating how it differs from codependency and emphasizing the importance of honesty and transparency. The couple discusses how hiding the truth can strip partners of their ability to make informed choices, and why full disclosure, when done correctly, can be pivotal in repairing relationships affected by hidden addictions. Throughout the episode, the Raabsmiths highlight the emotional and mental work required to mend a relationship after such a profound breach of trust.
They also share their insights into helping other couples navigate similar challenges, using their experiences to guide others through the often painful healing process. On a personal note, the host shares an update on their self-care summer project, emphasizing the importance of stepping back from workaholic tendencies to focus on personal recovery from burnout. This segment provides listeners with practical self-care tips and resources, reinforcing the podcast's mission to inspire transformation and growth.
This episode is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the transformative power of vulnerability and honesty. It offers hope and guidance to anyone struggling with similar issues, proving that with dedication and the right support, healing and reconnection are possible.

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