What to Look for in a Sponsor in Alcoholics Anonymous
By the end of this episode, you should be able to identify the rules of a sponsor, their primary purpose, and what it looks like if they overstep their boundaries.
If you or a loved one is battling alcoholism or drug addiction, finding a sponsor in Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) can be a lifeline in the recovery process. In episode 49 of Real Recovery Talk, host Tom Conrad is joined by Benjamin B. and Billy Badass to discuss what to look for and what to stay away from in a sponsor. Conrad shares from his own experiences and the experiences of others to teach listeners the things they can do today to start living a sober and free lifestyle.
The purpose of having a sponsor in recovery is to have someone who has gone through the program, and can share their experience, strength, and hope with you. They are meant to guide you through the 12 steps of AA and help you stay accountable. However, not all sponsors are created equal. Conrad and his guests emphasize the importance of identifying the rules of a sponsor, their primary purpose, and what it looks like if they overstep their boundaries.
One of the positive points of having a sponsor is that they can provide wise counsel and take you through a set of steps that have been outlined in AA. However, it's important to note that the sponsor's job is not to take your inventory but to help you through the steps. The goal of a sponsor is to carry the message of the alcoholic who still suffers, and the only thing Conrad asks of his sponsees is to make sure they go out, do the step, and sponsor somebody, because that's where the magic happens.
When it comes to selecting a sponsor, Conrad and his guests caution against fanatical individuals who think that AA is the only answer and therapy is not needed. They emphasize the importance of willingness, honesty, and open-mindedness in sponsorship. The guidelines for sponsoring someone else are not set in stone, but it's generally agreed upon that experience and time in recovery are important factors to consider.
Overall, finding a sponsor in AA can be an incredibly helpful tool in the recovery process. However, it's important to identify the rules of a sponsor, their primary purpose, and what it looks like if they overstep their boundaries. It's also important to remember that the ultimate goal of sponsorship is to carry the message of the alcoholic who still suffers and to help others. Remember to seek wise counsel, and put yourself out there. If you're interested in learning more, listen to episode 49 of Real Recovery Talk on alcoholfree.com.