#88 Why you feel torn in two when trauma strikes

#88 Why you feel torn in two when trauma strikes

What drives someone to seek a life without feeling torn in two? Bonita Ackerman du Preez, the brilliant mind behind The Trauma Recovery School, takes you on a journey to understand the emotional tug-of-war many experience due to trauma. In this episode, Bonita breaks down the concept of 'parts conflict,' where different parts of your personality seem to be at odds, creating a sense of indecision and confusion.

This isn't just in your head—it's a survival mechanism hardwired into your brain. Ever felt like a people pleaser while simultaneously wanting to run for the hills? You're not alone. Bonita explains how trauma magnifies these conflicts, making you feel stuck between your present self and a past identity. She reassures listeners that this internal battle is not a sign of weakness but a testament to your brain's ability to protect you during overwhelming times.

The episode is packed with practical advice, like recognising when you're zoning out or feeling numb as a sign of your brain's emergency escape hatch. By identifying these parts and integrating them, you can begin to heal and step into your future self. Bonita's approach is compassionate and supportive, offering hope that recovery is possible with the right tools and community.

Whether you're struggling with family dynamics, workplace imposter syndrome, or the need for social belonging, this episode offers valuable insights into managing these conflicts. If you're ready to stop feeling torn and start living as your whole, authentic self, Bonita's wisdom might just be the guiding light you need.