As You Think, So You Become: Finding Balance Between Mind and Heart

As You Think, So You Become: Finding Balance Between Mind and Heart

What drives someone to seek a calmer, clearer mind when thoughts feel loud and relentless? This episode of Encouragementology sits right in that space, as professional life and recovery coach Kendell Boysen talks about how our repeated thoughts quietly shape who we become.

Kendell explains how familiar mental loops can start to feel like facts: "You wear them long enough that they stop feeling like thoughts and start feeling like reality." She breaks down ideas like confirmation bias in very down-to-earth language, showing how the brain constantly looks for evidence to support what we already believe – whether that's "I'm not good at this" or "this is working". Rather than pushing a "just think positive" message, the conversation keeps things gentle and practical.

You'll hear how to step slightly outside your thoughts, almost like placing them on a table and asking, "Is this still true for me?" Kendell suggests holding two ideas side by side – for example, "I'm not good at this" and "I'm still learning" – and noticing how that simple shift can ease rigid, all-or-nothing thinking. A big theme is balance between head and heart. The mind brings logic and reflection; the heart brings meaning and what feels right.

Lean too hard on either and you might end up overthinking or reacting on impulse. Kendell offers small, everyday checkpoints: pause when emotions run high, identify the sentence underneath, and ask whether that thought is helping or holding you back. With stories like the man who forgot he was wearing tinted glasses, and prompts for gentle self-inquiry, this episode suits anyone wanting to reset unhelpful mental habits, build awareness, and move through the day with a bit more steadiness.

Ready to question that one thought you've been carrying for far too long?