BPD Relationships Begin to End From the StartBPD Relationships Begin to End From the Start
Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups
A.J. Mahari explores the idealization phase in untreated BPD relationships and offers hope through long-term therapy.
17:09•25 Dec 2020
Untreated BPD Relationships: Idealization, Trauma, and Healing with A.J. Mahari
“The beginning of every relationship with a person with untreated BPD brings with it the idealization phase. And then people kind of wonder later because you can't know it. If they're untreated, anytime they try to love and they don't really love you in any adult, healthy, reciprocal, age-appropriate way, and anytime they try to be loved or be attached to, there's no self there to take that in and it becomes just an incredible threat to them, which triggers them back to that primal.”
Ever wondered why relationships with untreated Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) seem to start with a bang and end in chaos? In this episode, A.J. Mahari, a seasoned counselor and trauma recovery coach, unpacks the rollercoaster dynamics of untreated BPD relationships. Drawing from her 30 years of experience, Mahari explains how the initial idealization phase can feel like a dream come true, only to unravel due to deep-seated childhood trauma and rigid defenses.
She dives into the unconscious mechanisms that drive those with untreated BPD to repeat these tumultuous patterns, often without realizing the impact on their partners or themselves. Mahari doesn't just highlight the challenges; she also offers a beacon of hope through long-term psychodynamic therapy. This approach, she suggests, is crucial for healing and building healthier relationships.
If you've ever been entangled in a BPD relationship or are trying to make sense of one, this episode provides invaluable insights and practical advice for navigating the storm.
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