Ep. 96 - A Story I've Never SharedEp. 96 - A Story I've Never Shared
Supported Sobriety
Katie Davis shares a previously private story of sexual assault on her mission and explains how it intertwined with betrayal trauma from her husband's pornography use. She describes the triggers, the impact on her view of men, and the tools she used to heal and reclaim her sense of safety and self.
29:41•15 Jul 2026
A Hidden Mission Trauma, Porn Betrayal, and Finding a New View of Men
Episode Overview
- Past sexual trauma can strongly shape how someone views men and affects later betrayal healing.
- Husbands may hide pornography use out of intense shame, especially when their partner has shared deep trauma, though this still causes harm.
- Triggers from sexual assault and betrayal can feel overwhelming, but they lessen when thoughts are changed and emotions are processed instead of buried.
- Involving God, mindset work, and nervous system regulation can help shift from panic and resentment to peace and stability.
- Waiting for a husband to change keeps women stuck; choosing to focus on their own healing brings faster relief and more control over their lives.
“"Everything you want can only come by transforming yourself. Healing from betrayal doesn't have to be difficult and take a long time."”
How do people find strength in their journey to sobriety? In this candid episode of Supported Sobriety, Katie Davis shares "something that I don't share lightly": a long-held story of sexual assault during her LDS mission in Armenia and how it later merged with the pain of betrayal in her marriage. The episode is aimed squarely at women whose husbands struggle with pornography use, especially those carrying earlier sexual trauma.
Katie talks about being a sheltered 19-year-old whose experience "shook everything about the way that I viewed the world and especially it shook the way that I viewed men." She explains how that trauma fed into a belief that "all men are just like bad, evil," and how those beliefs collided with learning about her future husband's pornography struggles.
Katie walks through the messy reality of two traumatised young people trying to build a relationship: her desperate search for safety and honesty, and her husband's shame-driven choice to hide his behaviour. She’s clear that lying isn’t excusable, yet she explains why "it makes even more sense that someone would lie" when faced with a partner’s deep trauma, offering a non-judgemental lens many listeners may find relieving.
A major theme is triggers: the sheer intensity of panic in the dark after her assault, and the spirals around pornography and trust in marriage. Katie shows how the same core tools helped with both betrayal and sexual assault triggers: changing unhelpful thoughts, processing emotions so they don’t get stuck, and consciously involving God in her healing. Over time, her view of men shifted from hatred to "I'm a huge fan of husbands.
I'm a huge fan of men," while her betrayal triggers largely faded. If you’re exhausted from checking phones, replaying trauma, or waiting for someone else to change so you can feel better, this episode offers a raw, honest look at what happens when a woman decides, "I have to heal myself independently of my husband." Could this be the moment you start doing the same?
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