Ep. 95 - I'm in the Struggle Right NowEp. 95 - I'm in the Struggle Right Now
Supported Sobriety
Katie Davis speaks honestly about being in a difficult mental and emotional patch, showing how unmanaged thoughts have affected her business, marriage and confidence. She explains how Intentional Thought Creation and daily mindset work can help women coping with pornography betrayal start to shift those patterns.
25:37•1 Jul 2026
When Your Brain Feels Like a Toddler: Katie Davis Shares Her Current Struggle
Episode Overview
- Unmanaged thoughts can make life feel worse even when external circumstances haven’t changed.
- The brain naturally defaults to fear, blame and "I'm not enough" unless it is actively guided.
- Betrayal-related thoughts often spread into body image, parenting, work and other relationships.
- The longer you delay managing your mind, the deeper negative belief patterns become and the harder they are to shift.
- Intentional Thought Creation is a learnable daily skill to build supportive, truthful beliefs about yourself and your marriage.
“"My life is in the exact same place as it was three weeks ago, but everything in my mind has changed to, 'Oh my gosh, everything is broken.'"”
What drives someone to seek a life that feels steady even when everything in their head is screaming the opposite? This raw episode of *Supported Sobriety* centres on Katie Davis sharing that she is, as she puts it, "currently in the struggle" rather than speaking from the comfortable safety of hindsight. Instead of a neat success story, you get a real-time look at what happens when everyday life (kids, camps, family visits) knocks someone out of their routines.
With her usual mindset practices on pause, Katie notices her brain turning into "a toddler" left alone with scissors – cutting into her confidence, her business, her marriage and even her energy levels. The facts of her life haven’t changed, but her thoughts tell her, "I'm a failure...
I should just quit." Anyone dealing with pornography betrayal will recognise the pattern she describes: unmanaged thoughts spiralling into "I'm not enough," "my husband doesn’t love me," and "this is never going to get better," then spreading into body image, parenting, work, and faith. Katie doesn’t sugarcoat how quickly things can slide when the mind goes unchecked, or how each day of delay can deepen those grooves. The heart of the episode is her practical answer: daily, deliberate mindset work.
She explains her tool, Intentional Thought Creation (ITC), a simple, repeatable way to build thoughts like "my worth has nothing to do with my husband's behaviours" and "I love my body exactly as it is" until they feel more natural than the old shame-based scripts. This one is especially helpful if you’re thinking, "I should be further along by now," or worrying that a bad week means you’re back at square one.
It asks a gentle but direct question: if your brain is acting like a toddler, are you ready to start parenting it again?
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