Heather Ross
Heather Ross
EP 131 How Do You Know If Your Child Isn’t Trying - Or If They Really Can’t Do It?
EP 131 How Do You Know If Your Child Isn’t Trying - Or If They Really Can’t Do It?
EP 131 How Do You Know If Your Child Isn’t Trying - Or If They Really Can’t Do It?
Tuesday 3rd March 2026
Heather Ross explores how recognising your child's true capacity can transform your parenting approach and improve family dynamics.
32 minutes
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About this podcast
Author:
Heather Ross
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Categories:
Family Recovery from Addiction
Sobriety Toolkit
Understanding Addiction & Recovery
Navigating Intimate Relationships
Recovery from Trauma
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Episode Overview
- Recognise the difference between capability and capacity in children.
- Shift from judgement to understanding by asking high-quality questions.
- Align expectations with individual capacity for effective support.
- Create a nurturing environment to facilitate growth and healing.
- Use personal experiences to illustrate transformative parenting strategies.
"When we have realistic expectations, people are far more likely to do better."
Ever wondered how to differentiate between your child's unwillingness and their actual inability to cope? Heather Ross tackles this pressing question in a heartfelt episode that promises to reshape your understanding of capability and capacity. With her own experiences as a backdrop, Heather shares the importance of recognising the unique capabilities of each child, particularly those struggling with addiction or mental health issues.
She challenges the conventional advice often given to parents, urging them to consider what their child can realistically handle rather than pushing them to meet arbitrary standards. Heather draws parallels between everyday scenarios and parenting challenges, illustrating how expectations should align with individual capacity. Her anecdotes about her daughter Helena highlight the transformative power of understanding and compassion over judgement. Heather advocates for high-quality questions like "What is their capability today?" to foster a more supportive environment.
This episode isn't just about parenting; it's about building a nurturing environment where both parents and children can thrive. By shifting focus from blame to understanding, Heather opens the door to meaningful change and healing within families. So, next time you're tempted to label your child, pause and ask yourself a high-quality question instead. Are you ready to transform your approach to parenting?