Episode 643 You Can’t Go Over It — You Have to Go Through It with Bizzy

Episode 643 You Can’t Go Over It — You Have to Go Through It with Bizzy

What drives someone to seek a life without alcohol? Elizabeth “Bizzy” Chance shares exactly that, weaving together remembrance, sobriety, and personal growth in a heartfelt conversation that feels like a chat with a wise friend who’s been through the wars. Recorded around Memorial Day, Bizzy starts by honouring soldiers who died in service and recalls escorting families of fallen Desert Storm soldiers when she was just twenty‑two.

That day, she says, never left her, and she expresses deep gratitude to those who paid the ultimate price, as well as to their families. From there, she shifts into her own story of recovery. Bizzy talks honestly about those early “Do I have a problem or not?” debates in her head, the shame and self-loathing that lingered, and the moment things began to change when she reached out for help.

With nearly two decades of sobriety, she explains how the tools she learned in recovery didn’t just help her stop drinking—they helped her grow as a person. A big theme is learning to walk through pain instead of avoiding it. Drawing on a children’s book she used to read to her kids, she repeats the line, “You can’t go over it. You can’t go under it.

You got to go through it,” using it as a metaphor for grief, guilt, parenting changes, and life’s emotional storms. Bizzy speaks candidly about empty nest feelings, pity parties, and the decision to move into gratitude rather than staying stuck in regret.

She stresses willingness, self-care, and letting go of the need for others’ approval, reminding anyone in recovery (or just struggling with life) that “what other people think about you is none of your business.” If you’re feeling stuck, ashamed, or scared to face the hard stuff, this conversation might leave you asking: what if going through it is exactly where your healing starts?