How To Stop Splitting (P.S. Share With Your Friends & Families)

How To Stop Splitting (P.S. Share With Your Friends & Families)

Curious about how others navigate their sobriety journey? This conversation with Sara and her partner Talon blends raw honesty, dark humour, and practical skills for anyone dealing with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), splitting, or loving someone who does. They start with life updates that many people in recovery will recognise: medication changes, burnout after doing too much, the joy and fatigue of just staying afloat.

Sara talks candidly about coming off one antipsychotic, starting Abilify, and noticing, "I made a meal for the first time in, like, probably a couple months last night," as energy and mood begin to lift. There’s also a sweet side story about their German Shepherd’s weight loss and the very human shame of the “depression nightstand”. The episode then shifts into Pride month, queer community, and the power of having at least one accepting adult.

Statistics about queer youth suicide risk frame a powerful moment when Sara spots a piece of art that reads, "I don't want to die yet" and almost cries saying, "I need this on my wall. I'm not ready to die yet." It’s a quiet but intense reflection on survival, sobriety, and staying. From there, Sara and Talon break down splitting on a partner in plain language.

They talk through warning signs (like "fuck you" thoughts turning into more subtle accusations of not caring), separating feelings from conclusions, avoiding major decisions while dysregulated, and using skills like checking the facts and the STOP and TIP tools. Talon adds the partner perspective: how it feels to hear "you don't validate me" even while trying his best, and how both of them work hard at repair once the storm has passed.

Listener responses round things off with practical tips—calling a comfort person, music, naming “I’m splitting”, and aiming for more honest "I feel" statements. If you’re dealing with BPD, in recovery, or loving someone with big emotions, you’ll hear your own chaos, humour, and hope reflected here. What patterns in your own reactions might be worth noticing next time you start to split?