From Clinger to Confident: Rikki Cloos on Healing Anxious Attachment
But if you have tools to deal with it- one of the best tools being the ability to self-soothe, it doesn't become such a problem in real life.
Ever wondered why some people cling in relationships while others seem effortlessly secure? In this episode of the 'Adult Child' podcast, Andrea sits down with Rikki Cloos, the author of 'The Anxious Hearts Guide: Rising Above Anxious Attachment'. Rikki opens up about her journey from being a self-described 'clinger' to becoming what she calls an 'earned-secure attacher'. It's a heartfelt conversation that dives deep into the roots of anxious attachment and offers practical advice for anyone struggling with similar issues.
Rikki shares her personal struggles with anxious attachment, a pattern often rooted in childhood experiences. She discusses how these early experiences shaped her relationships and the steps she took to heal and form more secure attachments. One of the standout moments is when Rikki talks about the importance of self-soothing. 'If you have tools to deal with it - one of the best tools being the ability to self-soothe, it doesn't become such a problem in real life', she explains.
Andrea and Rikki also explore the tricky world of dating with an anxious attachment style. They offer practical tips for setting boundaries and managing emotions, making this episode a must-listen for anyone navigating relationships with anxiety. Their candid discussion is filled with relatable moments and actionable advice, making it clear that healing is possible and within reach.
Whether you're dealing with anxious attachment yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode provides valuable insights and tools for creating healthier, more secure relationships. Tune in to 'Adult Child' and join Andrea and Rikki as they share their stories and strategies for overcoming the challenges of anxious attachment.