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Sex worker and artist Trixxie Morella shares a detailed account of an abusive relationship marked by reproductive coercion, cheating and anti-trans attitudes. The conversation also touches on solidarity among sex workers, healthier partnerships and holding onto hope for radical, emotionally aware love.
29:37•7 Apr 2026
Sex Work, Reproductive Coercion and Raising the Bar: Trixxie Morella’s Story
Episode Overview
- Being fully out as a sex worker can protect against being outed but may increase vulnerability to fetishisation and exploitation.
- Repeated claims about contraception or vasectomy should be treated with caution; informed, ongoing consent around fertility is crucial.
- Love bombing and fast intimacy can mask manipulation, cheating and deeper patterns of abuse.
- Connecting with an abuser’s former partners can help piece together patterns of harm and reduce isolation, though not everyone feels safe speaking publicly.
- Many sex workers feel safer dating others in or connected to the industry, or at least partners who actively listen and understand sex work as a stigmatised identity.
“Once I found out about the vasectomy, I was like, bro, this guy, the rapist, what he did is called reproductive coercion.”
What can we learn from those who have battled coercive partners and come out louder, prouder and more certain of their worth? This conversation with New York-based multimedia artist and sex worker Trixxie Morella centres on exactly that. Hosted by filmmaker and long-time industry worker Delilah Saul, the chat moves between raw storytelling and gentle debrief.
Trixxie talks about growing up between the deep south and the northeast, pouring their energy into porn, go-go dancing, burlesque, drag, music and fashion, all with one clear aim: "advocating for my community, advocating for our visibility, the fact that we exist, the fact that we deserve to exist." From there, the episode zooms in on a deeply harmful relationship where sex work, queerness and trans identity became pressure points for an abusive partner.
Trixxie explains how early "love bombing" and a repeated claim of having had a vasectomy set the stage for what they later recognise as reproductive coercion: "I did not consent to having contact with his viable sperm." The story includes pregnancy, abortion, cheating, anti-trans comments and doxxing, so it’s one to approach with care. Amid the horror, there’s a strong thread of resistance.
Trixxie speaks about connecting with his exes, naming the abuse publicly, and claiming the label of "the worst bitch he ever fucked with" as a sideways compliment. They also share how affirming past relationships with other sex workers have been, and why dating within the community can feel safer and more grounded.
The episode closes on hope, with Trixxie sketching out their ideal partnership: someone radical, emotionally intelligent, able to regulate their own feelings, and willing to understand sex work as part of who they are. If you’ve ever questioned your own standards for love and safety, this story might nudge you to raise the bar—what kind of partner do you actually deserve?
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