What Are You Thirsty For?

What Are You Thirsty For?

Curious about how others navigate their sobriety journey? This conversation with life and recovery coach Lynette le Roux digs into a deceptively simple question: what are you actually thirsty for when you reach for a drink? Lynette talks directly to people who are sober, newly alcohol-free, or just sober-curious, and she keeps things warm, relatable and gently challenging.

She suggests that for many, "your drinking problem is also an under-feeling problem", and shows how much time is spent in the head – analysing, replaying, worrying – rather than noticing what’s happening in the body. Using a vivid story about a palm tree in Mauritius, she shows how quickly a peaceful moment can turn into a full-blown internal emergency simply because the mind has spun a scary story. The tree doesn’t change – only the thinking does.

From there, she links these mental spirals to the automatic urge to drink, explaining how the brain learns to associate alcohol with both relief from discomfort and the boosting of happy emotions.

You’ll hear real examples from the Tribe Sober community: someone who only wants to drink when she’s happy and celebrating, another member facing a big club night sober, and someone who rode out a powerful urge after a tough day by walking, journalling and sharing instead of pouring a drink.

Lynette introduces simple, body-based practices to help people feel emotions rather than out-think them, offering practical questions like, "What am I actually thirsty for?" and "What am I feeling in my body right now?" As she puts it, "an urge is not an instruction" and "a feeling is not an emergency".

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re thirsty for alcohol or for relief, rest, connection or peace from your own thinking, this episode might get you asking very different questions about your next drink.