Heidi Rain
Heidi Rain
Why You Can't Control or Fix Someone's Addiction - A Candid Talk with Dug & Heidi
Why You Can't Control or Fix Someone's Addiction - A Candid Talk with Dug & Heidi
Why You Can't Control or Fix Someone's Addiction - A Candid Talk with Dug & Heidi
Wednesday 13th December 2023
Dug & Heidi discuss why you can't control or fix someone's addiction, sharing personal stories and practical advice on breaking free from codependent patterns.
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Healing Relationships
Navigating Intimate Relationships
Navigating Alcohol Dependency
Understanding Addiction & Recovery
Recovery from Trauma
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Episode Overview
- The episode unravels the complexities of addiction and recovery, shedding light on the common misconception of controlling or curing a loved one's addiction
- Heidi shares her experiences of trying to control her father's alcoholism, believing that improving his environment would lead to his sobriety
- The episode addresses the role of a fixer, someone who comes in with a heroic vibe, believing they can eradicate the problem
- Dug and Heidi dispel the myth that treatment alone can fix the situation, emphasizing the need for a sober network and professional support for the individual battling addiction
- They offer guidance on how to break free from codependent patterns and find peace by letting go of the need to control and fix
I should have probably fixed my lips before I came in and just get a little... I have prompts too. So if you're listening to the podcast, you might want to head over to YouTube and watch this video so that we can really drive the points home. But today we are going to talk about one of the things that happens most often with people who are in relationships with addicts or alcoholics. And that is the phenomenon of trying to fix or control the situation. How do you think the people try and control that? Is that like a rhetorical question? They don't know what to do. So they try to get their certainty back by controlling it or trying to make it better. So we want to, our controlling, and another way to say that is our controlling and our fixing is actually a hidden addiction, a coping mechanism called codependency to another's problem, but that's a little deep. So today we're just going to say, yeah, you're trying to control and you're trying to fix.
Ever felt like you're on a never-ending mission to save a loved one from their addiction? In this raw and honest episode of 'Breaking the Chains: Overcoming Addiction and Codependency,' hosts Dug and Heidi tackle the tough reality that you can't control or fix someone else's addiction. They dive deep into the often misunderstood world of codependency, where the desire to control and fix becomes a coping mechanism for dealing with a loved one's addiction.
Through personal stories and hard-earned wisdom, Dug and Heidi highlight why negotiating with addiction is a losing battle. Heidi shares her own journey, recounting her attempts to control her father's alcoholism by changing his environment, only to realize that external changes couldn't solve his internal struggle. This episode also explores the role of the 'fixer'βsomeone who swoops in with the hope of eradicating the problem, only to find themselves trapped in a cycle of frustration and disappointment.
Dug and Heidi bust the myth that treatment alone can solve everything, stressing the importance of a sober network and professional support. They offer practical advice on breaking free from codependent patterns and finding peace by letting go of the need to control. Tune in to gain a fresh perspective on addiction and learn how to support your loved one in a healthier, more effective way.