Organize Your Thinking: How to Stop Feeling StuckOrganize Your Thinking: How to Stop Feeling Stuck
Encouragementology
Kendall Boysen talks about how to organise overwhelming thoughts, separate problems, and make smaller, clearer decisions instead of trying to fix everything at once. The episode guides listeners to shift from mental overload to practical next steps, with a strong focus on self-compassion and realistic choices.
30:00•23 Oct 2026
Organise Your Thinking and Stop Feeling Stuck
Episode Overview
- Separate different situations instead of rolling them into one story like “nothing ever goes right”.
- Ask, “What’s the next decision I actually need to make?” rather than trying to solve everything at once.
- Distinguish facts from feelings and from what is actually your responsibility to resolve.
- Shrink decisions into smaller, manageable steps and stop expecting a perfect outcome every time.
- Give yourself permission to wait when you’re not ready, recognising the difference between avoidance and intentional pause.
“I can give myself permission to separate what I’m experiencing from what I’m responsible for resolving.”
How do people cope with the challenges of staying sober? This episode of Encouragementology zooms in on what happens when life feels like one big, tangled mess and every thought piles on top of the last. Professional life and recovery coach Kendall Boysen talks about those days when a rough moment at work, a tricky conversation, and a nagging unfinished task all blend into one heavy story of “nothing ever goes right”.
She gently challenges that idea, showing how separate issues can get emotionally bundled together and balloon into an unmanageable problem. Kendall shares practical mental tools, mixing personal reflection, psychology and coaching questions. She leans on concepts like choice overload and the “paradox of choice” to explain why more options can actually make decisions harder. Instead of pushing productivity, she focuses on clarity: breaking situations into facts, feelings, and what—if anything—actually needs a decision.
A standout moment comes when she suggests shifting the question from “How am I going to figure everything out?” to “What’s the next decision I actually need to make?” Another memorable line captures the heart of the episode: “I can give myself permission to separate what I’m experiencing from what I’m responsible for resolving.” Throughout, Kendall keeps the tone warm and relatable, using simple stories—from childhood cafeteria lines to overwhelmed jewellery shoppers—to show how narrowing choices can calm the mind.
She also validates those times when people don’t feel ready to act, asking honestly, “Am I ready to work through this? Or do I need a little time to sit with it?” This session is ideal for anyone in recovery or personal growth who feels mentally stuck, exhausted by decisions, or weighed down by looping thoughts.
If you’re tired of trying to fix everything at once, this gentle nudge towards “one situation, one decision at a time” might be exactly what you need right now.
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