S6 EP 40: The Behaviour You're Still Prending Isn't A Problem

S6 EP 40: The Behaviour You're Still Prending Isn't A Problem

What are the common struggles and victories in addiction recovery? RAW CHATTER! goes straight at one of the sneakiest ones: the behaviour you’re still insisting “isn’t really a problem”. Host Vicky Midwood talks about those everyday habits that creep up on you – the extra glass of wine, the ninth coffee at a free event, the endless doom scrolling, the people-pleasing and perfectionism that leave you exhausted.

She points out how easy it is to shrug them off with, “Oh, it’s normal, everyone does it,” even while your mood, sleep, energy and health are clearly paying the price. Vicky unpacks why smart, successful people keep repeating behaviours they know aren’t helping. Familiarity feels safe; the nervous system loves what it already knows, even when it’s wrecking your energy or keeping you stuck in shame and guilt.

She explains how repeated behaviours become automatic and slip into your identity: “I am a drinker”, “I am a perfectionist”, “I am a people-pleaser”. One of the most useful moments is when she talks through how change actually starts: awareness, taking responsibility, and then choosing a different action – even with something as small as a word you overuse. She’s clear that this isn’t about willpower or being weak; it’s about repetition, safety, and the stories attached to your habits.

As she puts it, “What behaviour am I still pretending isn’t a problem?” If you’ve been telling yourself it’s “just a treat”, “just weekends”, or “just what busy people do”, this conversation may feel uncomfortably accurate. But it also offers a gentler way in: drop the self-judgement, get curious, and start asking better questions about what you’re really getting from that drink, snack, scroll or overworking session.

So, what behaviour are you still pretending isn’t a problem – and what might change if you were finally honest about it?