Why Can't I Change? The Hidden Problem Most People Miss

Why Can't I Change? The Hidden Problem Most People Miss

What drives someone to seek a life without alcohol, overeating or endless scrolling, yet keeps them stuck repeating the same patterns? RAW CHATTER! host Vicky Midwood tackles that maddening gap between knowing what to do and actually doing it, especially around addiction, food, and self-sabotaging habits. Speaking straight from her own history with alcohol, binge eating and exercise addiction, Vicky challenges the idea that lack of willpower is the problem.

As she puts it, "the thing is often not the thing" – drinking, overeating or compulsive behaviours can be solutions to an underlying issue, rather than the real problem itself. You’ll hear how clients like Steph spent years investing in detoxes, elimination diets and medical tests for gut issues, only to realise the real driver was a constantly wired nervous system and a childhood in an unsafe, narcissistic household.

Another example shows how a man spent time and money on the wrong supplements because the root cause of his detox issues was completely different to what he assumed. Vicky mixes science, psychology and lived experience, explaining how environment, past experiences, neurodiversity and family dynamics shape the brain, gut and nervous system.

She also shares candid stories of shoplifting for binge food, multiple rehab stays and the shame of broken promises to herself, making it easier for anyone stuck in similar loops to feel less alone. Towards the end, she offers three powerful reflection questions about where you’re trying harder, collecting more information, or assuming you already know the problem – a simple way to start spotting whether you’ve been investing in the wrong solution.

If you’ve ever thought, "I know what to do, so why am I still not doing it?" this conversation might get you asking a different, far more helpful question about what’s really going on underneath.