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Emotional Sobriety: The Next Step in Recovery
Joe C., Allen, and Thom read from William Schaberg’s 30 Things: Practical Advice for Living Well to further explore the dismantling of “shoulds.” Our self-centeredness that’s expressed in an inability to not accept others’ feelings is also an expression of emotional dependency. One goal of emotional sobriety is to connect with others more readily and deeply. As Schaberg writes, by laying aside our judgements (unreasonable expectations; unenforceable rules), the world becomes “wider, broader and far more interesting.” Learn more about or purchase 30 Things: https://30thingsthebook.com/ To listen to pitches from, Allen, Joe Chisholm, and others from the ICSAA conference in Orlando: aasecular.org Learn more about Joe C., Secular AA and Rebellion Dogs here: https://rebelliondogspublishing.com/ Check out Howard Malitz’ Seasons of Sobriety podcast: https://pod.link/1460539626 Upcoming events with Allen Berger: https://abphd.com/events/ Follow us on social media. Podcast Twitter: @EmSobrietyPod Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs Friendly Circle Berlin Workshop Group meets every Monday @ 7:30pm (Berlin), 6:30pm (Ireland & UK), 1:30pm EST, 10:30am PST Zoom Link: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/5505019905 Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/ Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr= Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below): https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986 For our ongoing workshop video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings. We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments.
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Breaking Free from Emotional Dependency
Episode Overview
- Acknowledge and accept others' feelings without judgement.
- Emotional sobriety means acting for yourself without being selfish.
- Deep connections require laying aside unrealistic demands.
- Self-centredness often leads to emotional disturbances.
- Practical advice from William Schaberg's '30 Things' book.
“Feelings have a primal validity that cannot be denied. They are what they are.”
Ever wondered why some relationships seem so hard to maintain? In this episode of 'Emotional Sobriety: The Next Step in Recovery,' Thom Rutledge and Dr. Allen Berger, joined by Joe C., dive into the tricky world of emotional dependency and how it impacts our ability to connect with others. Inspired by William Schaberg’s '30 Things: Practical Advice for Living Well,' they unpack the idea that self-centredness and unrealistic demands can often lead to emotional disturbances.
The trio discusses how laying aside judgements can make our world 'wider, broader and far more interesting,' as Schaberg puts it. Thom shares a personal story about being corrected by his therapist for telling his partner she had no right to feel a certain way. This eye-opening moment helped him realise that acknowledging and accepting others' feelings without judgement can lead to deeper, more meaningful connections. Dr.
Berger adds that true emotional sobriety involves acting for oneself without being selfish and for others without being selfless. The episode also pays tribute to Kris Kristofferson, highlighting his influence on the hosts and their journey towards emotional maturity. They reflect on the emotional highs and lows following the International Conference of Secular AA, making the conversation relatable for anyone who's experienced similar emotional rollercoasters.
If you're looking to improve your relationships and understand the importance of emotional sobriety, this episode is a must-listen. It offers practical advice, heartfelt stories, and a dash of humour to keep things light. Are you ready to make your world a bit wider and more interesting?
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